Memorial ceremony - for loss associated with infertility or unwanted childlessness

‘Give Sorrow Words. The Grief that does not speak whispers the o’erfraught heart and bids it break.’ - William Shakespeare.

A non-denominational memorial ceremony for anyone who has experienced losses associated with infertility or unwanted childlessness.

Facilitators: Gill Tunstall (MBACP) and Sally George (ARC, Antenatal Results and Choices).

Organiser: Gill Tunstall Phone: 07825 581 148

Date & Time: 8th March 2015, 6.15pm - 7pm

Cost: Free

Location:The Bonnington Centre
11 Vauxhall Grove

This fertility loss service is open to anyone who has experienced infertility, failed fertility treatment, miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, premature menopause, stillbirth, terminations for medical reasons or otherwise, neonatal death, or to anyone who has experienced unwanted childlessness – from whatever cause, including from the absence of a suitable partner.

You are welcome to attend, either on your own or in the company of a partner, or of a close friend or relative.

This non-denominational service is open to people of all faiths and none. It was first developed by the psychotherapist Meredith Wheeler who has had many years experience in this field. The service consists of music, readings and participatory ritual. Attendees will be invited to light a candle for the missing child, or children, in their life.

The service lasts for about an hour.

More info can be found here:

The service hopes to provide an opportunity for painful, and often unacknowledged, experiences of loss to be mourned in the company of sympathetic people with similar experiences of their own. The intention is to help to provide some liberation from the weight of unexpressed feeling, and to offer the possibility of peace and resolution.

There is no cost if you wish to attend.

Please click here to contact Gill if you would like to book a space. Your participation is welcome! Ask Gill if you wish to take a more proactice role in the service by reading a poem or appropriate text of your choice.

Healing – a workshop for anyone facing infertility/involuntary childlessness

7th - 8th March 2015,
Sat and Sun 10.00am - 5.00pm

This workshop is for anyone who has experienced infertility, failed fertility treatment, miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, premature menopause, secondary infertility, stillbirth, neonatal death, or unwanted childlessness – whatever the cause, including lack of a partner.

The groups aim to continue and develop the innovative work in this field of the therapist, Meredith Wheeler. The intention is to allow participants to explore their emotions, and to open up the possibility of moving on in their life.

Some may need to acknowledge feelings of grief and loss and this can help women to feel lighter and calmer.
Sharing feelings and experiences can alter the perspective of participants on their own story. This process can provide clarity for those difficult decisions on what the next step might be.
Links may be forged during this process that could form the basis of valuable supportive networks offering a route out of isolation.
The longer term benefits may take various forms:

Some people may come to terms with childlessness and decide to stop further treatment.
Some people may decide to undertake further treatment, but in a new spirit.
Some people may reconsider the possibility of adoption.
Although the focus of the workshops will be on shared experiences and emotions, there will also be an openness to finding ‘ways in’ to people’s feelings by creating art or using meditation techniques. The emphasis will be on expression rather than ability - no prior experience is necessary. Care will be taken to create a safe, compassionate and healing atmosphere.

Fees for London weekend workshop: £190 or £175 early bird if booked at least three weeks in advance.

Limited spaces available.

Some bursaries for unwaged or low-income individuals. Financial issues should never be the factor preventing anyone from taking part.

Women, men and couples are welcome. Partners are particularly encouraged to attend.

All sexual orientations welcome.

Organiser:Gill Tunstall Phone: 07825 581 148

Location:The Bonnington Centre
11 Vauxhall Grove

Do call me on tel. 07825 581 148 to ask any questions and you can register your interest by using the contact form.

Quotes from previous attendees

“I feel so much better after last weekend. My brain has got room to deal with life again and I can talk with other people about their problems without feeling like my head’s going to explode! I feel more like the old me again - such a lovely feeling.”

“It was so good to meet other women in the same situation as me, to talk and empathise, as I’ve felt so isolated and different from friends and family. I think hearing someone else’s story also helps put your own into perspective. Also, when you tell your story and people accept you and don’t judge you, it helps you stop judging yourself.”

“I am me again! I know I can now focus on the future. For the first time in over 2 years I have had a very enjoyable weekend - without feeling like I have my burden of “infertility” clouding my mood. Finally been able to relax - all part of letting go I guess!”

“Just thank you so much to Gill…a wonderful experience and with wonderful women!”